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Feb 10 -- Defriending Amnesty
From my current Twitter stream:
I did get really down in the dumps yesterday when I found out that I got defriended by somebody whose real-life friendship I value greatly. That they don't have the 2 minutes or so to catch up with one of my typical posts these days seems the final nail in a coffin marked "Great Person Who Has Given Up Liking Me."
On the other hand, I know what it is to have a busy life, and to try to cut down the amount of time one is taking for online pursuits, not to mention the fact that many of my enthusiasms and pursuits have wandered a bit over the past few years. (Yes, I still do love Due South and Hugh Dillon, to name just two major fascinations whom I've spent a lot of past time on. And I'm not writing at the moment, though since that seems to come and go in my life, I will probably start up again... sometime.)
In the spirit that it hurts less if you RIIIPPPPPPPPP off the Bandaid, I'm declaring a defriending amnesty today. If reading my posts is one more chore on your way to the good stuff, if you're going to scream if I complain once more about being unemployed or feel like groaning when I post a picture, or are rolling your eyes when you read a bunch of disconnected Tweets: it's OK to check out.
I won't lie and say it doesn't hurt me, but I feel it will be better if I don't put people -- that I really do like and would love to share stuff with -- in the position of feeling obligated to read here.
Please understand that this isn't a plea for "reassure me that you like me" -- not that I don't like attention from my friends, but I don't want the attention you get setting up people to give you a pat on the head. I've disabled comments on this post, and I pledge not to check the list of "people who have friended me back" for... I dunno, at least a month if I can stand it.
(It would probably be better if I never checked that list at all, but if my friended-back-list gets down to ten people who haven't checked LJ in a couple years, I should give up journaling here, you know?)
- 06:57 I'm trying to gauge just how distressed the cats are about being fed. It's about 12 hours since their last meal.... #
- 06:59 The sight of Chumley running flat out down the stairs trying to beat Muppet to the food bowls just NEVER fails to AMUSE. #
- 10:34 is down in the dumps about being defriended by a long time friend on LJ. It feels like such a rebuke, even if it isn't. #
- 14:26 Found out that a friend is having twins! They will be much loved and well-parented, too. #
- 15:16 making a pretty thing in Photoshop. Ah, the solace of arty stuff! #
- 20:04 Shopping center was CRAZEEE crowded tonight -- I drove around for 15 minutes before I gave up and went to the employee lot.... #
I did get really down in the dumps yesterday when I found out that I got defriended by somebody whose real-life friendship I value greatly. That they don't have the 2 minutes or so to catch up with one of my typical posts these days seems the final nail in a coffin marked "Great Person Who Has Given Up Liking Me."
On the other hand, I know what it is to have a busy life, and to try to cut down the amount of time one is taking for online pursuits, not to mention the fact that many of my enthusiasms and pursuits have wandered a bit over the past few years. (Yes, I still do love Due South and Hugh Dillon, to name just two major fascinations whom I've spent a lot of past time on. And I'm not writing at the moment, though since that seems to come and go in my life, I will probably start up again... sometime.)
In the spirit that it hurts less if you RIIIPPPPPPPPP off the Bandaid, I'm declaring a defriending amnesty today. If reading my posts is one more chore on your way to the good stuff, if you're going to scream if I complain once more about being unemployed or feel like groaning when I post a picture, or are rolling your eyes when you read a bunch of disconnected Tweets: it's OK to check out.
I won't lie and say it doesn't hurt me, but I feel it will be better if I don't put people -- that I really do like and would love to share stuff with -- in the position of feeling obligated to read here.
Please understand that this isn't a plea for "reassure me that you like me" -- not that I don't like attention from my friends, but I don't want the attention you get setting up people to give you a pat on the head. I've disabled comments on this post, and I pledge not to check the list of "people who have friended me back" for... I dunno, at least a month if I can stand it.
(It would probably be better if I never checked that list at all, but if my friended-back-list gets down to ten people who haven't checked LJ in a couple years, I should give up journaling here, you know?)