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Mar 05 -- WWMLKD?
From my current Twitter stream:
I tried to get a friend on the phone last night to talk me out of speaking up unwisely on the car crash referred to as RaceFail'09 hereabout. First because she is wise in Matters Fannish and second because aloud and verbally I might be able to express my concerns and Hear what she has to say when tone of voice is so important to not giving offense and promoting understanding.
Perhaps it's because I've spent enough face time with enough of the main participants (on both sides) that I read some of the statements that others are finding so inflammatory and I'm really 'hearing' them contextually much differently and more sympathetically, and despair at trying to render into print what would be pages of explanation necessary, and probably get misunderstood because I'm not a talented writer enough that my sincerity and good intentions would be obvious in each sentence, and if I ventured into what the other person took as an example of unconscious racism or whatever, I could be called on it when a learning opportunity was right there and I was open to it.
One of my friends came up with the acronym WWMLKD and I think that is so apt. I know he wouldn't be hammering away with hundreds of angry posts, condemning the participants rather than engaging with what they're saying, letting himself get white-hot furious with his back up and writing angry things that he's too proud and too in denial to take back.
I really am quite distressed by all that I've read, to the point of feeling physically ill, perhaps at the despair that I can't sit down any two random participants on a bench and have them verbally express not just their arguments, but actually listen to each other's viewpoints without the inherent coldness of computer screen prose in the way.
- 11:06 got dressed to go out to car to find last of my caffeine pills. Found out that I'd tucked them into my purse last night. #
- 13:00 @raveninthewind -- wincing far too much about RaceFail09, which is especially painful because I'm longtime acquaintances/friends with some. #
- 14:35 still wincing about RaceFail on all sides and wish I could get somebody to talk aloud to me about how to respond. #
- 16:49 Looking at: great discussion of the last Sarah Connor Chronicles episode. roxybisquaint.livejournal.com/54214.html #
- 19:42 @phoebeacheson -- I had the same happen, one year on Thankgiving. Dentist theorized I probably had a stress fracture from childhood. #
- 20:56 Got Java 5 SE SDK and Eclipse installed and running today. #
I tried to get a friend on the phone last night to talk me out of speaking up unwisely on the car crash referred to as RaceFail'09 hereabout. First because she is wise in Matters Fannish and second because aloud and verbally I might be able to express my concerns and Hear what she has to say when tone of voice is so important to not giving offense and promoting understanding.
Perhaps it's because I've spent enough face time with enough of the main participants (on both sides) that I read some of the statements that others are finding so inflammatory and I'm really 'hearing' them contextually much differently and more sympathetically, and despair at trying to render into print what would be pages of explanation necessary, and probably get misunderstood because I'm not a talented writer enough that my sincerity and good intentions would be obvious in each sentence, and if I ventured into what the other person took as an example of unconscious racism or whatever, I could be called on it when a learning opportunity was right there and I was open to it.
One of my friends came up with the acronym WWMLKD and I think that is so apt. I know he wouldn't be hammering away with hundreds of angry posts, condemning the participants rather than engaging with what they're saying, letting himself get white-hot furious with his back up and writing angry things that he's too proud and too in denial to take back.
I really am quite distressed by all that I've read, to the point of feeling physically ill, perhaps at the despair that I can't sit down any two random participants on a bench and have them verbally express not just their arguments, but actually listen to each other's viewpoints without the inherent coldness of computer screen prose in the way.
no subject
I am learning a lot though.